I realize I don’t owe anyone an explanation, so I’d like to get that out of the way first. I am completely aware that I am not responsible for how people perceive me — especially when their perceptions are askew.
Full disclosure, this isn’t for them—it’s for me. Why is it important that I defend myself? In the grand scheme of things, it probably isn’t at all. However to me, in my life right now, it’s huge. It’s so huge in fact, that it’s keeping me up at night and overpowering my thoughts.
So I am putting this out there, and I’m doing it for me. In publishing this, I am giving myself permission to release the unbearable heavy weight of trying to please everyone. I can’t and I never will. So I will type this, and bid these feelings—and those who have fallen out of love with me, adieu.
To The People Who Say I’ve Changed:
You are damn right I’ve changed.
In May of last year, One year and four months ago, I was a mother of three working at a carpentry company. I made a silly video for no reason other than I felt like it—and it went viral.
That was never my plan…
Eleven months later I had 1 million supporters.
In the four months following, I acquired 1.5 million MORE supporters.
In one year, and four months, I have been blessed with over 2.5 million followers.
That was never my plan.
I was not expecting any of this and frankly, I was completely unprepared. However I was grateful, honored and joyous over the fact that I had finally—found my calling.
I loved making videos, and people loved watching them. So much so, that in order to keep up with “demand” of continuing to do so, I decided to quit my job at the carpentry company – one of the scariest most liberating decisions I’ve ever made.
The thing is, making videos, brightening peoples days, and spreading awareness became my mission – I loved doing it. However my husband was working overtime to pay the bills, and truthfully if it wasn’t for Patreon, I would have had to stop and go back to work.
With a large number of supporters, comes a large number of people reaching out to me. So for those of you saying I look tired, or I don’t care about you because you reached out bearing your soul and I ignored you, I’d like to give you an inside look into my world.
This is from tonight, from my email—one of 5 inboxes…. observe the frequency of the incoming emails…
I have thousands of unread messages in IG and FB as well…
I can tell you one way I’ve changed…I am filled with so much gratitude that people are reaching out to me, I am honored they open up the way they do, but I’m just one person. And it is constantly in the back of my mind that I am unable to respond to everyone bearing their soul in my inbox.
As an empath, it kills. Especially with subject lines like this:
Have I changed? Yes, I feel like I am letting people down on a constant basis. It weighs on me daily, and makes me feel depressed and unworthy of this incredible platform I’ve been given. There are days where, in order to keep my sanity, I steer clear of social media all together. I have to.
I have recently been called names and unfollowed because I did a few sponsored ads. I need to put this into perspective for all of you say I’ve changed and all of my content is sponsored now. I know I don’t have to, but I want to.
I’ve made hundreds of videos.
Six were sponsored.
Those sponsored videos, are what allows me to make the rest of the videos for your enjoyment. Because I don’t get paid to buy props, film, and spend hours editing. I do that at no cost, because I like to make people happy.
I work with two companies, and the beautiful thing is – in order to watch the rest of my videos, YOU DON’T HAVE TO BUY A SINGLE THING! Heck, you don’t even HAVE to watch the sponsored videos. You can scroll on by and watch the rest of the stuff I spend my life creating – at no charge. Why does it bother you so much?
HERE IS SOMETHING I WANT YOU TO KNOW.
And truthfully, I’m probably going to get in trouble for this next thing, but again, it’s important to me.
I work with two companies, because I truly love them as people, and as a brand. The companies have bought books for my supporters, sent flowers and beautiful cards to my door, and have allowed me to be 100% myself, while contributing to my family.
I have turned down tens of thousands of dollars, BECAUSE I don’t want people to think I’m a sell-out. Here are just some of the offers I turned down this month...
I know I don’t need to (and probably shouldn’t) show you this but THIS, this right here is why it bugs me when people send hate mail and leave nasty comments. I always say no, I am trying to get by, not get rich, which is why I have kept it at only two companies.
I have changed, in many ways. I have learned as I go, grown, and tried my best, to make the most of my second chance at life.
If you think I’m different or want to unfollow me – then by all means, hit the button. My true supporters understand me, and my heart, and they are the ones I am concerned with.
Things are moving at a rapid pace, and I’m gratefully trying to keep up. I am a wife and mother first, and a content creator next. I will continue creating content until someone kicks me off the internet, or I am no longer able to provide for my family while doing what I love.
I am so grateful to everyone who has stuck by me, and who see my true intentions and goals. I look forward to what the future has in store, and am honored to have those of you who “get me”, alongside me for this journey <3
I love you all so much, and appreciate the love and support more than you will ever know!!!!
PS…I’M GOING ON EFFING TOUR, DUDDDDDE!!!!!!!
My last name is spelled Nash…not Nssh! ?
Assistant time!!! Your the best, let the haters hate but you stay true to you!
You are an amazing, kind, passionate, full of life woman, wife, and mom. You are helping people. Yes, you can’t help all, but you can help some. I hope you can figure out a way to let the guilt go. You said it yourself, you are just one person. ?? Whom I and many others find amazing.
You are a rock star!!! I for one am super happy for you and your success!!! Stay strong and focused!!! Take care of yourself and keep doing fabulous you??????
Tiffany,
Thank you for being YOU! You are a breath of fresh air and so incredibly funny with such truth as to how so many of us feel on any given day…I so love watching you. It seems almost daily I think of you bolting through the doorway, sideways, saying “tacos”! And I so wish there was something that would “knock food out of my mouth”! (May have gotten the exact words wrong.). You hilariously speak about so many things we ladies identify with and I think you are GREAT! It takes an incredible amount of time and money to do what you do, some folks have no idea what all goes into just one short video. I am happy you have sponsors that you want to work with who also support your efforts. Please keep being YOU! God Bless!!!
FEEL BETTER NOW???
Good…….cause that definitely needed to be said!!
Keep rockin Girlfriend….LUV YA?
Girl if we’re being honest, I would tell you to endorse a few more companies. You owe us nothing ! Family comes first, and if you’re able to make enough to pay for your kids college while they are young then by all means PLEASE DO IT!!!! We would all do the same if we had the opportunity!! There’s nothing wrong with getting paid for doing what you love! That’s called using your resources wisely!
Preach, girl! People act like making videos is free, your time is free… dude. Sponsored content is what keeps the content going — it’s a pretty simple principle. Do people think it just magically happens?
People in your FB comments lately make me sad. First of all, their complaint need not be directed at you, anyway. FB is the one who places the ad on the news feed. If they want your content only… go directly to the frickin’ page! Simple.
Anyway, as someone who is also an empath, and also struggles with depression and anxiety, I truly appreciate your voice being out there. Blessings to you.
You should never have to apologize for making the choice that is right for you. Love your blog, and your videos, even the sponsored ones. Your honesty is awesome and for many moms it’s great to see a real person dealing with real life. We laugh because we’ve been there and it’s nice to be reminded that we’re not the only ones dealing with the same issues.
You need to let the torment of pleasing others go! Just do you and evolve as you see fit. I wouldn’t worry about losing followers because you will gain new followers. There is nothing wrong with trying to make a living. If your product endorsements bother them, who gives a flying fork? There are a lot of unstable, mean internet trolls out there. Weed them out. With sick people like that, it goes beyond them not liking endorsements. Some people are just going to dysfunctional. Ignore them. If you start reading a negative comment, stop! Don’t give them the satisfaction. Is it possible for you to get some guidance from successful you tubers? Maybe get some insight in handling all this exposure and fame. Protect yourself and develop a hard skin. Some of that comes with age. Wait til you’re in your 40’s ! Not giving a fork is very liberating. I wish you well and hope you can enjoy this wild ride.
I will never understand why people feel the need to make nasty comments. If you are unhappy and think someone is selling out then move on!!! I love your videos and the sponsored ones are just as funny and enjoyable to watch. You keep do’in you!
I adore you! Hold your head up high, so many of us love you. To the people struggling, look up an AA meeting near you. It’s saved my life. Sober 12 years. I’m a child of God. A mother, daughter, sister, aunt, friend…. I’m here if you want to change.
I am a 56 year old. I have one son dead because of drugs and another serving 15 years in prison. Both of my sons have 2 kids That’s 4 young people left to sift through what’s left and fight the odds and stay far away from drugs. I could go on but don’t want to make this about me. My point is that while I have never been on drugs my world has been severely affected. Catastrophically!!! I thank God for you as you are living proof it can be beat and survived and you thrive as well. I know that money is our means to survive in this world. We all have to eat. Some people are only meant to be in our lives for a season or 2. Others will remain. The ones who do already know your heart. One of them is me. I am so very proud of you. My prayer is this. Continue the pursuit of your call. God is using you. The world needs to see what God can do in the life of one who has overcome. With gratitude and support. A friend whom you haven’t met yet, Dawn
It sucks that you feel you have to explain yourself! Be true to yourself! You’ve got your priorities right…family first! You’ve helped so many, you should be proud! Love you! ?
PS…hope the tour thing works out! I’d love to see you in Milwaukee!
You’re great the way you are! Take it from an old woman, stay true to yourself and just do you! Screw the haters!
I will Support you no matter what love ya girl!!! Hang in there ??
Change is good! There are always going to be haters to bad for them. You do you, your killing it! Celebrate yourself and all you have achieved. You give so much you deserve to be rewarded. Hope you can swing by Idaho and spread some of your humor. xoxo all the best to you & your family!
It’s a sad fact that there are so called “people” out there that get their happiness by making other people miserable. And they do a good job of it. Say a prayer for them and delete, block or whatever you have to do. Don’t give them another thought. You do such a remarkable job of helping and encouraging so many people that you can’t let the small percentage of angry unhapoy people get to you. Always keep your perspective and your goals in mind. Order of importance is God, family then everything else. Family doesn’t always mean blood relatives. Keep doing the remarkable job your doing and sponsor whatever and whoever you want to sponser. That’s taking care of your family. I’ll always be a fan. Love ya!! 🙂
The number one reason I love your videos, is that You are Real. You dont have this fake nature about you that alot of people have. Earthy and raw emotions are what make us human
Not tons of makeup, brows as thick as caterpillars, not a fake persona that you’ve mastered, but a personality and life that you have created for yourself to move forward. That’s what makes you real, I my opinion
I love it!! Your videos make me laugh in a genuine way, and I get an inside scoop on how other people face their day to day life, not everyone is all smiles with florescent teeth. Perfection to me, is no compliment. But you look good, sound great and rock your own attitude. Thank you for putting your story out there ?
I’m so glad that you have been able to find a way to follow your passions and provide for your family. I would hate it if you couldn’t make your videos anymore cause you had to juggle your family life and 2 or 3 jobs to get the bills paid. And honestly, I even like your sponsored content because you are still your awesome self in those videos.
Some people are jealous of your success.. You do what you love..you are helping people and getting to be with your children while they are young, not many get to do that. Take care of yourself, don’t let the negativity of others bring you down..that’s on them not you. You are a strong, brave, incredible lady, that is funny as hell. Love watching you. (Oh I’m hooked on The Grove now too)
Here is just one more comment for you but I feel I need to say it. You. Go. Girl. You are truly just one person and shouldn’t have to carry that burden of helping everyone. I hope you find a team of people for that kind of help! Keep spreading love ? Quite frankly if you are sponsoring a post I know it must be good! It’s why I bought two fab fit fun boxes!!
Me —————————————————–pushing the naysayers aside and yelling. Move outta the way. I wanna see the next video! 🙂 love ya! Bless YOU! you make me laugh! that is a good thing! we need more laughter in the world!
I’m so glad you got that off your chest and wish that people would leave you alone about the sponsor videos you do. I say bring on the sponsorships! Anything that helps you support your family so you can continue to do these videos can only be a good thing. As a stay at home mom of three little ones your page helps keep me sane when times are exhausting and overwhelming. There is nothing else like your page. You’re freaking hilarious and you deserve every sponsorship and opportunity that comes your way.
In life you will always find negative people. For some reason they seems to make theirselves feel better by putting others down. You are great Tiffany!! Many days you have brought a smile to my face! YOU ROCK! Best of luck on your TOUR !
I have watched all of your video but I am not much of a commentator( ? is that a word.. commentator?..) hm.. anyways… I think you are so funny. I am a mom to a little boy. Since then, since he has gotten that toddle phase I cannot keep up with taking care of Everything. I run my husbands roofing company, I take care of the household duties, take care of my son, and I make weighted blankets for autistic children. So most days I don’t wear makeup, I just throw my hair up put a baggy shirt on and go! .. I hated that I felt like things things like doing my hait etc. feels more like a chore. I am trying to feel more comfortable with myself and just do me and not care if the house is dirty.. or there is a pile of laundry. It’s the life of a mom!!! Your videos helped me to realize that. Your videos has helped me feel comfortable through this phase of my life dealing with my toddler and myself. I knew you had many followers and did sponsorship but I did not know being a “vlogger” was so overwhelming. I commend you for sharing this. I love all your videos And your awesome. But I never once thought that you didn’t have your own life, priorities and problems. You help a lot of people just by producing videos that should be enough. Shame on those that send you hate mail or think differently of you for sponsoring… that’s so ridiculous. You gotta get paid too! Jeesh? and besides I hate Myers cleaning products and you convinced me to give it a 4th try. So I like those videos too! Congrats on your tour!! Movin on up. I am so happy for you!
Let the haters hate! You are an inspiration to many. I, myself am not an addict or in recovery, but I have people in my life who are. One of which was my stepdaughter who overdosed on meth last November the day before her dads birthday. That haunts us daily. You are doing a wonderful job of just being you and you will never please everyone. You rock!
You are awesome and you make people laugh and that is a gift. Very few people get to do what they love and support their family doing it. The negative people are just jealous. Let them go. Hire someone to help out with the email and delete the negative comments before you see them. Heck I would help you out for a box from Grove or tickets to a show.
People are afraid of change… I for one really appreciate seeing your journey. I beleive it helps people see that more is possible if you do what you love. Your an inspriation to anyone who is overcoming a challenge in their lives and is imperfect each and everyday. You make me laugh and cry and think. In a world of instagram filters and images of perfection, I am much more compelled by your realness, transparency, and honesty. In a world of “Kardashian”s be a “Tiffany” ??.
Congratulations on finding your true calling! God speed
Tiffany,
You have done so much for so many people. Keep doing you and what’s best for your family. What others think of you is none of your business. It’s obvious that the majority love and support you!!! Your family will always come first and if your able to help financially I think that’s great!!! No one has walked in your shoes and I commend you!!! Support and sponsor whatever you want! The ones that truly love you will continue to support!!! Love you!!! ??
Don’t apologize for growth or success! You found the best of both worlds, ability to take care of your family while doing a job that makes you happy!
Time for an assistant if you think that will make your life easier. I would love to be your assistant!!! Lol. Enjoy the moment and let the rest go.
Girl, take ALL the opportunities you wish. You have the ability to provide an amazing life for your family. We change everyday. So, while you continue to grow, and make millions of people laugh, you should get to laugh all the way to the bank.
We have a drug epidemic and your are a breath of fresh air to this problem. People are riddled with depression/anxiety and you bring laughter – which is the best medicine!! You have a God-given gift. I’m sorry there are haters!!! They are just miserable people.
Keep doing what you’re doing!! ???
You are simply amazing and I am so grateful for what you do. You make me laugh. You have helped me find love and compassion for my step sister who is an addict. You have cheered me up when I was having a bad day. Hell, if i watch one of your videos first thing in the morning, the rest of my day is wonderful. I love that you have stayed true to who you are and I love watching you grow and change as a person. You are amazing. Keep being the awesome person that you are! Much love, Cathleen.?
YOU are awesome just being you. So many changes going on is hard and to have so many others judging you… I love your videos, I love where you’ve come from, I love your heart. You are one person. To even respond to the amount of content coming in you need a team. Not even an assistant. A staff lol. I understand why you put that out there. To write it is to find acceptance. XO
Oh Tiff….I’m sorry your going through this. You shouldn’t have to. Please know your great and true believers are with you. Your an entertainer…and your good at it. Tell me what entertainers don’t do endorsements…it’s the same thing. You brighten peoples day with your videos, please don’t stop. I know you probably won’t read this. But that’s ok. I only have one child and a full time job and I can barely find time for myself. So bravo Tiff. BTW…you and your sister are just like me and my sister…and we thought we cornered the market on crazy ?. Luv ya….stay true to you and the fam.
Your beautiful and strong!! Just keep doing you!! Your doing amazing and I will continue to support you till the end of forever!
I love your videos. I am also an empath and I totally understand where you are coming from. It’s hard to shut off the negative. You have a ton of supporters out there and you have made a connection with so many people. Thank you for what you do.
I know you’ll never see this but the people that are upset and saying you’ve changed are just not grown yet. A grown adult understands that You are a Mother and Wife and have responsibilities. I don’t think you’ve changed. I think your circumstances changed and you just came to Yourself and had to adapt to them. Also, I think you should Stop worrying about people thinking you’re selling out and do what you Want to do. Don’t just try to “Get By.” You deserve More than That! Don’t just get by. Live your life to the fullest and take advantage of any opportunity that you can! Life should be lived as easily as possible and money happens to be a necessity to do that! It doesn’t make you money hungry. It makes you Smart! Thank you for being so real and honest! You’re helping so many people! P.S. You remind me so much of my cousin that passed away 12 years ago. She was my best friend! She was awesome!
Michelle Lee
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I’m 50 year old wm. Not that it makes a difference. But really enjoy your videos. I’m glad that you can make a living doing these. To hell with the haters. You can only live your life. Your not responsible for the rest of the world. Good luck and God bless.
You are hilarious and we need the laughter! God has blessed you and you can bless others when you make money & hide HELP in whatever form you desire. I hope Patreon is your husband ( and not a misspelling of Patron!) . He should NOT be burdened by your delicious talent. Bless that man! Since.the beginning of time, when people succeed, some people thankfully a very few, get jealous and critical. Ignore them! Make some money , girl! Hire help- others need your business. And please keep making your videos- even if you can’t personally coach each individual, you reach so many andhelp MANY!!!
Thank you for what you do…you have certainly found your calling, and your words help not just the addict but their families, friends and other loved ones. Keep up the fabulous work, do what you need to do; wishing you peace and happiness, and sending love and positive vibes!! Thanks again ??
I think you are an amazing person and I love that you are honest and graceful while doing it. You can’t please everyone and someone somewhere will always have an opinion on something that doesn’t pertain to them whatsoever and I like to think that they don’t have a life or their life is miserable but either way you are true to you and that’s what matters.
I love following you and your story because you inspire others in a powerful way.
Thank you Tiffany (my name is Tiffany and I like that because your a cool ass chick) for the kindness and positivity you bring to the world.
Your awesome. I want to start a blog like you did..how do I start that. Can you help me??
Love you!
I’m so happy for you!
I, too, am recovering. I was a little concerned about how open you were about it, then realized that you are working within the ‘traditions’.
I think you and I would really enjoy each other, if I lived in Florida or you lived in Texas??
As Taylor Swift says (???):
The haters gonna hate, shake it off!
I’m glad you explained for your heart and not theirs!
Keep on trudging!
Right On! I rarely if ever comment or speak out, but like you I just need to say this, even if you don’t read it! ? F that! You and your family should be able to benefit from a wonderful opportunity that has been bestowed upon you. To be able to do what you love and feel is your calling AND make money…is everyones American dream, and they would scoop up that money in an instant. Kudos to you for resisting but Do NOT feel like a sell out for accepting the blessing for your family. Keep rocking!
There’s one thing g I’ve noticed about all “haters” they hate because they fear…they fear they don’t know how to be you instead of being themselves!” Displaced emotions are what we do best, sasky
Stay true to you and all of us that are passed the stage of displacement will stick by the true you and be your bestest fans!
Love you
Paula Betche (Ohio)
I think you are awesome just the way you are