Hey there you little rebel you. How’s it going? So listen – I know you don’t know me, which probably makes it super creepy that I’m writing to you, but I’ve got some pretty important stuff to tell you, so you gotta hear me out.
I can tell you – from experience – that being a teen is tough. School, relationships, mid term tests, and your naggy, annoying parents (ugh-parents are the worst aren’t they?). Right now you are in the process of trying to figure out who you are and where you fit in, and you are probably learning that it is much more fun to be rebellious, than to be a goody two -shoes and follow all the rules, (boooooooring.)
Peer pressure is a powerful force at your age, and the desire to be liked and fit in with the “cool kids” has led you to experiment with drugs. (How do I know? I’m a mom-we know everything)
This is why I’m writing to you.
I know that you have been smoking some grass, (Gonja? Green? What are you kids calling it these days?), and chances are – you enjoy it. It makes you laugh uncontrollably and have the appetite of an NFL player. You are probably stuffing your face with Cheetos and watching a documentary about Zebras in amazement, as we speak. I get it, your peers are doing it, and it sure as hell beats sitting at home listening to your Mom complain about how dirty your freakin bedroom is. But I’m here to drop a knowledge bomb on you real quick. And if you are wondering just who the hell I think I am to lecture you – let’s just say, I’m an expert in the field of…Ahem…your newfound “hobby”.
See I know something you are unaware of. I know what comes next. The part that no one thinks of when they make the decision to try a drug for the first time.
If you do a drug, there is a very good chance that your body -your physical body – will get addicted to it. You are probably saying to yourself “No way stranger lady, you don’t even know me, I’m strong-I would never let that happen.” And I am here to tell you – You. Are. Wrong. I know, because it happened to me. (Also, it’s a scientific fact that if you do a drug enough your body will become addicted so…… booyah)
Once your body becomes addicted, it will rely on that drug to function properly, if your body doesn’t continue to receive doses of that drug, it will rebel in ways you can’t even begin to comprehend. Imagine the worst flu you’ve ever experienced. Your mommy was probably sitting at the edge of your bed, petting your head and hand feeding you soup with a spoon. You probably had to stay home from school because you felt terrible and couldn’t “bear” to sit in class feeling the way you did.
Now multiply that feeling by 300, and while your at it-go ahead and hit yourself in your arms and legs with a hammer a few times. Now imagine being drenched in sweat, your body temp 104 degrees, yet you are freezing as if standing in an igloo. Now picture sitting on the toilet for hours with a bucket in front of you as your body attempts to empty the poison from within it – you still aren’t even close to imagining what withdrawal feels like.
This feeling of withdrawal is so powerful, that you will do just about anything to avoid it. This means, that you will need money to buy more of the drugs to avoid feeling sick. What happens if you don’t have the money? Good question – you have a few options here. But the 2 quickest and most common ways are: 1) Lie to and con your loved ones into giving you the money or 2) Taking it without their knowledge.
You are probably shaking your head as you read this saying “No way, I would never do that to my family.” But guess what? You have never experienced withdrawal. You can’t possible have an idea of what you would do in that amount of physical and mental anguish.
Aside from the physical pain – the drug also affects your brain. Basically what happens is – the addiction climbs up into your mind and hi-jacks it. It grabs on to the steering wheel and starts controlling your every thought, and your every move. Addiction makes you do unimaginable things, things you never knew you were capable of. It will turn you into a liar, a thief, and a criminal. Contrary to popular belief – being a criminal sucks. It makes it incredibly difficult to get a job or own a home, as employers and realtors generally frown upon criminal history.
Anyway, listen, If someone had written me a letter similar to this, I might have taken a different path. I may have avoided going to jail, living at a rehab facility, losing countless jobs, and destroying relationships with my loved ones . I might have gone to college, I would most likely have a career by now -making money, owning a home, and going on vacations- but I didn’t know. I am a 31 year old waitress who is only just beginning to live her life. I spent 10 years lost in the fog of addiction, 10 years I can never get back. It seemed fun, I wanted to feel different, I wanted to fit in and temporarily escape. I had no idea what I was getting into, and It cost my everything.
I pray you will take my advice (which, you may not, because sometimes we have to learn thing the hard way) however if you chose not to, I want you to at least take a break from googling cat videos on Youtube for a second, and spend some time educating yourself about the realities of drug use and addiction…… It may just save your life.
The girl who learned the hard way.
P.s. Be nice to your parents, they aren’t going to be around forever….
Seen it happen to too many friends. Glad to see you doing well and happy!
That’s pretty terrible advice 🙂
I’m do happy that I’ve recently discovered you I’m a recovering addict and recovering prostitute I say that because owning my past helps me take some of the shame out of it. I will have year clean December 29th 2017. I’m going to be speaking to high school students in February and this really inspired me. I’ve been tossing around the idea of writing a mom/recovery/trauma blog because I didn’t know it had already been done. Anyways thank you for being you! Keep on rocking in the free world!
I wish I could get my boyfriends 13 year old daughter to listen. She’s been doing drugs since she was 12 and she’s been in and out of the legal system and group homes. Now we recently found out that she’s using needles most likely heroin because she’s addicted to opiates. She won’t listen and we don’t know what to do. And as you know from my previous comments I am an addict and have a similar story but she just wouldn’t listen to me.
Ugh. I could literally feel every last bit of that withdrawal description. That was 198.2% directly on point! But they still still think they are the chosen ones and it won’t happen to them… exactly the same way we all did…
Also… I’m 31 too!! ???
Very well said, addiction is fast wide-spreading today not only to teens but at any age. This is article nailed it! I’m thankful that I got the chance to read your post, Cheers!