Trigger Warning – Death of a loved one.
I wanted to update everyone on where things are in my life, but I also feel like I want to keep most of it private and close to my heart. I will try to word this in a general sense, rather than speak specifically about my relationship with those involved.
The word “hospice” never fails to send a chill down my spine. It’s so much more than losing a loved one. It’s tear-soaked eyes, hushed voices, unanswered questions, anger, exhaustion, prolonged emotional agony, wondering, wishing……..Waiting.
My first encounter with hospice was when my grandmother was sick with cancer. I was in my early twenties and had gone to visit her. I remember laughing as she pointed the television remote toward the large glass window on the opposite side of the room, mumbling incoherently about the television being broken. I thought she was being silly, but when I noticed that no one else in the room found it as amusing as I had, I realized that somehow in the span of two days, she’d forgotten what a television was.
My mother explained that she was comfortable and at the end of her life, so very soon she would no longer be able to speak. She comforted me by reminding me that my grandfather, as well as my paternal grandmother would be waiting to welcome her at the gates of Heaven. She urged me to talk to her and say what I wanted to say before it was too late. It felt awkward and uncomfortable…So I didn’t.
Less than a year later, I stood beside the bed of my 47-year-old mother as she drew her last breath. This was my second encounter with hospice. Cancer had taken her at an offensively early age and a startlingly short time. On her last day I opened my mouth to say all the things I needed to say to her before she was gone, but the words wouldn’t come out. At this point I was hopelessly addicted to drugs and unsure of what to say. I wasn’t there for my mother during her sickness and couldn’t “bear” to see her in such a frail state. So, I stayed away.
I’ve forgiven myself for most of the things I’ve done while on drugs, but my lack of action during this time she needed me most is unforgivable–for now anyway.
Six years later, I was sober and present for my father as he laid in the hospice bed, resting peacefully at the end of his life. He had waited for all of us to leave the building before he took his final breath, but we were lucky enough to hold his hand afterward and say goodbye. I imagine he was already drifting to his next destination at this point, but it still felt healing to kiss his forehead one last time.
I hadn’t once managed to say the things I needed to–or should have said. I never wanted to have those conversations with them because it would be acknowledging the fact that they were dying. So instead, we had surface-level conversations and danced around the giant elephant in the room. When they were gone, they were gone and all that remained were all the unspoken words that will forever live in my mind with no place to go.
My mother had met and married a man when I was nine years old. He was a police officer, and my sister and I lived with him and my mother full time. He stepped up to raise us when my father wasn’t able to. He was there for my fifth-grade graduation, my first boyfriend and my first heartbreak. He drove me back and forth to my first job, cheerleading practices and cooked my date and I a delicious meal before the homecoming dance. He taught me how to drive a car, cook a killer egg sandwich, and most importantly, how to love another person’s children as if they were my own.
After my mother passed away, My stepfather eventually remarried and decided to retire from the police force and move to a lakehouse in Georgia. He allowed my family and I to move into the home he was leaving behind here–for next to nothing. He just wanted to know we were safe.
He has a name, but from the time they were born my children called him grandpa. I’m sure my father and mother wouldn’t have minded, but even if they had, I wouldn’t have been able to get the kids to call him anything else. They adore him. We visit him at the lakehouse often and have created some memories that will last a lifetime.
As I stood by his hospice bed this week, holding his hand and making jokes to lighten the somber mood in the house, I decided to do something different than I’d ever done.
The words flew from my lips with urgency and determination. I thanked him for all of the things he had done for me over the past 27 years. I promised him my children would know him, assured him we would keep his memory alive, and told him beautifully personal, sacred and special things that I won’t share here. He responded, “Take care of my grandbabies for me”, and many other heartbreakingly moving things that I may not have gotten to hear if we hadn’t had this conversation. We acknowledged the truth about what was happening with him and cried together for a bit before he drifted back to sleep.
My tears were not tears of sadness. They were tears of joy and peace. For the first time in my life I was able to leave nothing left unsaid with someone I cared deeply about… before I missed the chance.
I’m sure my mother was there to meet him with open arms yesterday when he left, and by now he has probably told her all about how silly, loving and adorable her grandkids are.
Experiencing loss changes a person forever. Experiencing the loss of most of my core family members puts me in a strange position. At times I feel lost, uprooted, orphaned, alone and heartbroken. But I know my family wouldn’t want me to cease existing in their absence.
So, I will continue to march on, telling everyone I love how much I love them as often as I can. I will always say the things that need to be said and give the compliments that need to be given. I’m going to drop the people who bring me anything other than peace and joy, and love those remaining folks as fiercely and urgently as I can.
This post was mainly a way for me to get my thoughts out onto paper, but also, I suppose, a gentle reminder to surround yourself with people who bring you joy, tell them how wonderful they are as often as you can, and never, ever, ever, feel embarrassed or ashamed to say what you feel to the people you love while you can.
Thank you for your patience with me as I navigate this season of my life.
Tiff and family-
2 months ago, my just barely 15 year old niece took a rope and ended her own life. This week my aunt (who was more like a grandma to me and my son) since I never had grandparents passed away. I feel your pain so deeply. I have heard more “they are in a better place”, “cherish the memories”, “they are still with you,” etc… all the nice things people say for comfort when they don’t know what else to say. So I’m not going to say that. What I am going to say is to lean into your pain and grief (which also allows your children to do the same). We tell our kids to feel free to express their emotions and don’t keep things bottled up, but then when the time comes that we as adults could lead by example we often times choose to hide that from them. All I can say is don’t. You and your family should grieve together. Because experiencing loss SUCKS. My prayers go out to you and your family. 💛
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Death is hard. No one knows the right words to say to comfort you in the midst of your grief. ♥️ Know that you are thought if, prayed for, and not judged for any of your past misses. Only loved for the strength in which you share your truths.
Oh Tiffany, I knew something hard was happening in your life. My Husband and I saw you in Anaheim, 2nd row, silly shirts.. close enough to see your lovely rings and sweet smile. Yet here and there your gaze wandered and I wondered again what you might be going through. Thank you for the show in the midst of your pain, for making us laugh. For sharing your talent.
Thank you now for your vulnerability and honesty. I have a very broken and hard background. I left an abusive family and was “punished” my mother’s words, for leaving and talking about incest. Both my parents and great grandmother were sick and died within a few years. No one told me they were even ill. Lost. No closure. I wasnt able to hold them one more time, ask questions, tell them I loved them.. forgive them. I hear (why do I always hear my mother on my head?) people saying “you left, what do you expect”. I was in contact with sisters.. now they too are gone. The orphan feeling, abandoned, alone, unloved.. those are lies today, yet they wash over me at unexpected moments with raw pain. I’m praying for you, sweet friend that I have never met. How blessed you are to have so many people holding you up. How blessed you are to have had that healing time with your stepdad. Thank you for opening your heart to us here, it is healing for us as well.
Thank you for sharing all your wonderful moments of sadness, joy, laughter, emptiness, fullness, the in betweens, the traumas, and the victories!!
The LORD BLESS YOU ALWAYS, 🙏 I want to tell you how I “accidently found you”
No coincidence! Just God’s plan of time.
Right now I’m doing our personal expenses 😬. Trying to catch up. Love, love your videos, they make me laugh, cry and really think about life as a mom, wife etc….for now farewell. ❤️ I’m so sorry about your loss of your dad. I never got to be with mine, this is for another time to bring up. Talk soon.
Lost my brother in Dec. 2021, to Cancer. I despise Cancer. Megan Divine’s book helped me in alot of ways. I don’t let people (even family members) tell me How to Grieve, or when I should be ‘Better’. Grief is Love and love never leaves.
Times like this are hard to manage but you have grown into a beautiful,caring, inspirational being. Your life if touching so many. Time helps thr memories are priceless! God is walking with you. You can lean on him always.
Tiffany…I’m so very sorry for your loss. I’m so happy that you got to say all that you wanted to say to your stepdad & share those tender moments w him. God bless you & your family. May your stepdad RIP ALWAYS♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽
My goodness, this is the most beautiful and poignant post I have ever read about the importance of seizing opportunities to cherish one another. Thank you Tiffany. ❤
So much love to you 💗
This is beautifully written. Thank you for sharing such tender moments with us. This advice will not go unused ❤️
And that my dear is Grace. God bless you as you mourn the loss of your Father and your childrens Grandfather. There are no words to give you comfort but the
tears of your grief will help wash them away. Lean in to the feel and I promise you
there will be more glimpses of joy. Rest until you need us again. We will hold you up in the meanwhile and be here waiting to continue to love on you again when you return. Prayers to you all.
Grief is because of the love ❤️
I’m a hospice nurse and i see this often. Our hospice offers grief counseling for free for a year after your loved ones death for anyone connected. Something to look into for you and your family. Peace and hugs.
To all the lovely Jenkins,
This was perfectly said and felt. While we are have our personal experiences in life, reminders of how special and precious life is, is what we need daily.
My heart felt sympathies for everyone and hugs to you all.
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This is excellent advice! My sister and I lost our mom very young 48 years ago and she, our dad and I went to our separate corners…it took a long time for all 3 of us to heal. Show your kids they can handle their feelings in a healthy way. ❤️
This is THE best response! I lost my BF to fibrosis of the lung, my brother to kidney cancer, another friend from high school the same week as my brother, my Dad 3 months later, 4 months later I got sick and had lung cancer surgery to remove a lung and while recovering I had to put down my 15 year old soulmate Rusty a beloves dachshund. This was ALL in a span of 1 year. My point to all this book I wrote is I made it. 4 years later I am just now exiting the darkness, the grief, the pain of realizing theae people are gone. Lean into the grief. Perfect advice. I hate the saying “they are in a better place”. Let the grief come, live in it, work through it and let it fade as time goes. The pain never leaves but the intensity of it has subsided slowly. Very very slowly. Take care of you through it. 💔✌💜
I am so sorry for your loss my heart goes out to you and your family that was so beautifuly said
My heart and my eyes have wept tears like I haven’t wept in quite awhile, while reading this. Bless your Other Dad’s Soul and bless your broken heart.
Dear Tiffany..
I’ve been the hospice route a few times with my cousin and my very dear friend. My heart goes out to you and your children. What helped me was looking at signs from nature that my loved ones were near. My cousin loved butterflies and I see her when one flies near, my friend loved cardinals and I see her in the one that likes to hang in my yard. Take care of yourself, we will be here when you come back. Hugs.. Denise
What a somber time… I held my Papa’s hand as he left this world & it was truly the hardest time of my life. Wishing you peace & warmth in this season 🤍
Tiffany, this is so beautifully written.
I’m so glad you were able to have the conversation with your other dad. It sounds like you were able to take so much from it. It is inspiring.
I do hope you can learn to forgive yourself for not having those conversations with your other relatives.
Sending love xx
What a great sense of peace you must have leaving nothing unsaid. Your loved one knowing truly how you felt and for you to know how they felt is priceless. I never want to say, I wish I would have. Knowing you have grown in your spirit and heart is a great place to be. I am so very proud of you for facing your fears and leaving nothing unsaid. We can not have our loved ones forever but them knowing you appreciate them and you love them brings them closure and peace. I am so sorry for your loss. Never forget how far you have come in your journey, you should be proud of you. I know I am!!!
This was absolutely beautiful. Thank you for sharing. Sending you peace and light 💗
Tiffany you brought me to tears. I’m praying for you and your losses. Your a fantastic mother and friend. I dream of being your friend. I have so much compassion for you. Your living my dream. I always wanted to act and be a comedian. You do a stand up job. I have had major anxiety and depression all my life. I finally after 4 years found a counselor that’s not out 2 years for an appointment. I think and pray for y’all often. I have no sister but you would be my 1st pick. Your so real and tell the truth. I love ya so much.
Thanks for sharing. That’s part of the healing process. Cancer is an ugly, vicious monster that doesn’t discriminate! My first experience losing someone close to me was my little nephew. He was diagnosed right before he turned 1. He was in the hospital for a long time. He had major surgery where they cut his tiny belly open that went all the way across his tummy. He went through so much. He finally went into remission when he was almost 3. Less than 9 months later it came back with a vengeance! He came so close to dieing so many times. If it was an older person you’d say enough is enough. But when it’s a child you just can’t give up! Sadly right before his 4th bday he lost the battle! As far as Hospice. They are amazing! We had them with my dad and mom. It takes a special type of person to do what they do. My daughter-in-law’s brother was an addict for most of his life. In and out of jail. He finally ended up in prison for awhile. He was in his late 30’s. So he was sober when he got out. We were just waiting for him to start using again. But unfortunately his mom got cancer. She was diagnosed and was gone in 5 months. He did everything to take care of her. He made a promise that he would stay clean. He is now more than 10 years clean. We all know it’s because of his mom. I too hate when people say everything happens for a reason. At the time you can’t understand why they would say that. But it’s been my experience that it usually is. Maybe not right now but years down the road you’ll think back and say now I understand.
For your willingness towards vulnerability, sharing your truths, and of modeling of that and more – my deep gratitude and honoring. 🙏🏼
May comfort and peace surround you during this tender time.
All love.
Thank you for letting us know where you are at! We all love you! (Virtual hug). Thanks for representing those of us who have had regrets. You are so awesome. I’m glad that you got to say goodbye and in the proper way. Thank you for reminding us to take that time to appreciate those we still have in our lives. Love you!!
Absolutely beautiful. I appreciate you sharing such personal experiences and seeing the transition from hesitancy to pure love with expression of final words. My sister and I have been through similar losing both parents and we joke about being orphans but know we are not alone. There are so many of us growing through life together and being part of that is wonderful and motivating. You got this my sister and I pray uour peace multiplies abundantly.
Tiffany & Family-
It’s never a goodbye, it’s just a see ya later. I wish you peace during this tough time. My positive thoughts and energy is with you at this time.
I am so very sorry you had to go through this… my dad had a stroke last week and now he has bleeding on his brain and I’m losing my mind… you just made me feel like maybe I can make it. Thank you for helping me even though your in pain. You and your family are in my prayers!
Tiffany,
I truly am with your heart ❤ right now. I know this all to well myself I list both my grandmother and great grandmother to cance, it is so hard I was young like you. Then my Dad to kidney disease that’s when I list control to drugs for many years. Recently in Feb this month we lost my brother in law to overdose. It brings so much into perspective. I’m a mama of 5 boys and it makes being a parent even more scary and stressful. I love you babe you take all the time you need and know we are all here for you and all supporting you. Your just perfect how you are girl. Love your face.
Tschandra
I’m so sorry Tiffany for you and your loved ones. I hope I don’t miss another chance.
Thank you for this open, honest, even raw conversation! Sending all the Love and Blessings to you! Take the time to take care of You. Loss is hard! Grief is hard! Be kind to yourself ❤️
Tiffany,
Your story reflects a mirror image of my life. My mom in hospice while I was struggling staying sober, my other Dad ( who took care of me my almost whole life). Words never got said to my mother as I was in rehab when she died. I will say those words to my other dad. Thank you for being so candid. I loved reading this and feeling like I’m not alone
I lost my mom unexpectedly on February 18th. The things that haunt me are the things I didn’t say or do that week. I miss her terribly. I am so happy you were able to tell him all the things you needed. I know it gives great comfort in a painful time. I will be thinking good thoughts for your family’s hearts during this time.
Tiffany, sending thoughts of comfort your way. I recently lost my older brother and he was my first experience with Hospice. He and I were off and on with our relationship- nothing wrong, just completely different lives. I told him all the wonderful things I loved about him, thanked him for helping me achieve sobriety and being the cool uncle to my children. Towards the end, I asked him if he knew who I was and he closed his eyes, smiled and said “My sister”. Last words he spoke and they healed my heart so much.
Thank you for giving me a space to talk about this as I haven’t discussed with anyone.
I could feel every word you wrote in my heart and tears with great familiarity. Respect for your honesty and vulnerability ❤
Hugs to you and your littles
I applaud your strength in this time of transition. When someone is suffering and passes, I call this day a Celebration Day. I consider it to be an honor to be at the bedside of my older loved ones as they pass. If they drift off peacefully, they usually see loved ones who have gone before and speak to them. That reassures me greatly. I have been at the bedside of my 16-year old granddaughter as they took her off life support after she stroked out on synthetic marijuana. Her mother could not bear to be in the room, but I could not bear to see her pass without someone she loved to be there. Fortunately, the doctors were wrong and she has been in a 10-year recovery process to regain most functions. God gives us the strength to be of help to those in need.
First of all I am so sorry for all the losses you have had to go threw. I pray for comfort and peace during this time. You expressed yourself beautifully in your message. Thank you for sharing with us. Take the time that you need, we understand.
Oh hugs and prayers for you and your family. You are amazing sharing with us your painful moments. Helping us see how life is so short and how we should always let those we love know we care. May the Lord keep you strong. 🙏🤗
I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad that you had your other Dad in your life as he sounds amazing. I can’t imagine what you’re all going through but I am sending lots of love to you all x
Sweet Tiffany! We all feel like we know you because you have shared so much of yourself with us.. a bunch of strangers that you have helped through some tough times. At this time I am so happy that you were able to be there and share yourself and memories with your bonus Dad as I know he was! Know that your Mom, Dad and Grandma were with you too and very proud of where you have come in this tough world! You are loved, not only by your family and close friends but also by many of us who feel like we know you!!!! Please give yourself the grace God gives us and take the space you need to celebrate the love you have for all those special people in your life because….. They are PROUD of you and your beautiful family! God Bless!!🙏❤️🙏
WOW,This is an absolute amazing Post.I. send Love peace and comfort to you,My husband was diagnosed with Cancer 3 years ago.He was sent home on Hospice on February 17th 2022,It was the first time either of us had been in this situation Especially on the Front lines.The emotional Journey,the high’s low’s and everything in between is just indescribably to even explain.He was and still will be the Love of my Life.We were together for 22 year’s,I am only 44 and I have the rest of my life ahead of me,and it is very scary to me.My entire adult life was with him and our Children which are all grown,He has 2 from a previous marriage and together we had Our Daughter.I was so thankful that I was able to be right there by his side the entire time to care for him and take care of him,like he had always done with me.I have just started posting little stories and moments and emotions on are Facebook.I’m definitely not one to do that,but this has opened my eyes in ways that I can even imagine.My Husband passed away on April 1st 2022.This is so fresh for me.I was blessed to be able to talk to him every day and he was able to talk to me as well,His last 48 hours it was almost impossible for him to verbally communicate,but we new each other so well,that we could just look at each other and know what was needed or thinking.Love Language is absolutely a true thing.He was an absolutely strong beautiful soul.I was also blessed enough to have an actual peace about it the morning he passed,because we had already been able to say a lot to each other during the whole process of his diagnosis.I woke up around 10:25 am went to the restroom came back in to go lay back down with him,and that’s when he snuck out of this Earthly world on me at 10:30 am.💕💕💕❤️❤️..I’m just beginning my new normal life and it is sad scary happy,mad,confusing and crazy.Much Love to you.Thank you so much for sharing.❤️
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My heart hurts for you and all you’ve been through.
You are such an inspiration. I am so glad to read you’re taking time to heal your heart and adapt to life without your other dad- it is such a healthy way to maintain your mental health and that in itself makes me proud of you and how far you have come in your recovery. I think about my own decisions in life- and your story makes me want to embrace my loved ones more while they’re still here to do so. Praying for your hearts as you go through this season. Hugs and much love xo
Tiffany, What a beautiful thing to share! Yesterday was the 48th anniversary of my Mama’s sudden passing at 32 years old. I know the feeling of things left unasked and unsaid.
You have grown into a woman who has learned from her experience and now “does better.” I’m sure this will help you to comfort your sweet kids and to show them that grief is a normal thing (sadly) that doesn’t have to be hidden and we should be allowed to feel how we feel. God bless you ❤️
Tiffany,
I have gone through may sadness of loosing a lot of loved ones. I have also worked as a CNA Nurse I was in them shoes a lot. I would know what it’s like trying to come up with ways on expressing feelings to a loved one that is near their time. I have lost many grandma’s and pap’s over the years. I know what you are expressing, with my dad having Parkinson’s Disease, shows that life is precious .It is true we all should tell those around us on how much they are loved and how much we love them. I sending you so much love and pray that God continues to bless you in many ways. Hugs to you and the family.
And now I have no words…THANK YOU FOR SHARING. My time is near to navigate the road you are so eloquently walking. 💓
Beautifully written. Making beauty from ashes. ❤️
Huge hugs and prayers for you and your family!!! 💗
I am so sorry for your loss! I’m glad you were able to get your words out this time, as it seems to have given you peace! You are a beautiful writer! Sending you a big hug!!
My story with my mom is so similar to yours. I was 24 when she was diagnosed with Cancer, how I dealt with it was by moving 3 states away. I was called to her side towards the end and spent 8 weeks watching her disappear. I didn’t know what to say of do. She died at 42. I never said what I wanted to say. I am 48 now and still sad she isn’t here to see her grandbabies and me not addicted to anything anymore.
Crying at work reading this. The evolution of ourselves in times of loss generate the most profound meaningful experiences that outlast annt fear we faced in having them. You are a testament to that. Be well. Be at peace. Rest.
Big hugs to you. I can’t imagine how hard this was to write.
I’m so very sorry. I was there when my granny took her last breath and she was the first person to hear mine. Cherish everything. Sending so much love to you and the family.
Oh my ❤️ breaks for you sweetie. I hope it brings you peace and love doing that….saying goodbye the way you needed to.
So heartfully sorry for this journey you are presently on. But Oh, Im so glad that this time you were able to share your heart. This was so familiar to me as I recall the time in my life, right around your age, when I stood at a casket 6 times in less than 3 yrs. These times are so painfull, yet they help to shape us into “grown ups”. You bring such joy to so many Tiffany, and when my son was living on the streets due to opiate addiction, Your book was a comfort. Thank you once again for your transparency. ❤
Sending my deepest condolences Tiffany! 🤍🕊
I am so sorry for your recent loss, Your family are in my thoughts and prayers! 🙏🏻
I too have stood where you are and I commend you on being able to say the things that you had to say and get some form of closure. I am a firm believer in heaven. I also believe that our loved ones never really leave us. So even though they are not here physically they are spiritually. You can always talk to them and tell them everything you want to say. God bless you and comfort you in this difficult time in your life. Hugs.
So sorry for your loss/es.
May the many menories of your loved ones passed always give you comfort.
Don’t dwell on what wasn’t said or done. Focus on the happy and what you have done.
Sending you love, strength and healing.
I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds like some beautiful memories were shared between you both. I hope this brings you the comfort you need to help you through. Much love x
Im so sorry for your losses. You as I, learned as they pass on, we get more and more able to say and do what we feel in our hearts. The first ones I lost, I was without words just pain and some anger. Then recently, I lost my dearest little sister and I said so many things to her and pray she heard me. I was not there as she took her last breath but on the way to the hospital I called and had a nurse hold the phone by her ear so I could tell I was on my way and how very much we all loved her. 5 min. later she passed but Im sure she heard me as she was preparing to leave. Your story is so comforting to me and my heart aches for you and your family. Thank you for sharing this as Im, sure it was hard but also sure many people who read it will appreciate those they love even more. God Bless you and your family.
This brought back so many hard memories for me. In 2019 my father, who was a single father to me and my 2 sisters, was diagnosed with cancer. He battled it for a year and then decided he could no longer endure all the treatment. So on October 25th 2020 after being on hospice for a week he took his last breath. It is a pain I can never get over. Thankfully we were all at his bedside the entire week of hospice to make sure he was comfortable and not in any pain. I was the youngest daughter before he married the love of his life which added another 4 siblings when I was 15. He and his wife always said if one went they wanted to go together. Oddly enough his wife passed 4 hours later completely unrelated and unexpected. We have a joint funeral for the 2 and buried them next to each other. It’s strange but it sort of brought a sense of calm to the situation for me. Knowing God saw fit to keep them together the way they wanted. It still hurts very much. I loved them both more than life and I miss them both everyday.
Sorry for all your loss, sending you lots of love. Also thank you for sharing this with the world it must have been so hard for you to write xx
Sending you hugs and reminding you, it’s going to be Ok
This is such a beautiful tribute to loss. It is an important reminder for us all. Grace and Peace to you all through this time
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I am currently dealing with the pain of watching my mom — who has dementia — forget things (like my brother’s name) and have hallucinations. It’s heartbreaking. So reading this made me cry, but also made me smile knowing that you were able to share that special moment with your stepdad and get that peace and closure you so desperately needed. He sounds like he was an awesome man, father, and grandpa. What a blessing!
I am so sorry to hear of ur losses an ill be praying for u an ur family an youngo through the storm just know ur not alone an we are all here to love an support you.. ❤️ 💖 💗 💕 ♥️ 💙 ❤️ 💖
Omg I am so sorry you are going thru this. Sending prayers to you and your family. You are such a strong person to over come so much in your life. Thank you for sharing this with us. 🙏🙏❤️❤️
Sweet Tiffany, I have followed you for so very long and this just broke my heart for you. I hope that you find healing and peace. You take all the time in the world that you need. Just know that we’re out here sending up prayers for you and your family.
Thank you for sharing this most intimate experience. Grief comes in waves. Let it flow. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Dear Tiffany,
My first daughter is also Tiffany BTW so I am fond of the name and of you and your raw honesty. I am asking God for your comfort. I thank you for lifting a weight off of my shoulders by watching you do it too. Relationships are HARD! I hope you remain real and honest for your own sake and peace, not for ours. But thank you for letting us be voyeurs into these moments that give us an example that we can too. Much love to you and yours, Laura
Tiffany, this was a beautiful and I am sure cathartic post. I too have lost most of my core family and understand how you feel completely. Speaking the words you did to your step dad gave you the ability to let him go in love. ❤️I at times feel orphaned and uprooted. The holidays are the worst for me because I feel like I do not belong anywhere. Keep your chin up and know that your family loved you. You are amazing!!
Thank you for the reminder we must always share with those we love just how much we do. It is not always an easy thing to do. I myself lost several family members and it was hard to watch and share even I when I knew they would be going to a better place with no more pain and suffering. Take your time to grieve and grow in this moment of time. You have come so far in your journey of life. May God bless you and your family. Thank you Tiffiany